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Face Slapping as a Technique of Dominance.
By Master Len
Copyright January 5, 2010

This method is designed to allow for deep submission in a safe environment within a consensual power exchange relationship.
Face slapping can cause a lot of different emotions.  Some will melt into sexual submission and others will cower and be afraid. Still others will become angry and want to attack you. Perhaps it is the shock wave that causes our minds to reel.  It may be a primal connection. There may be personal history that is involved.  In this discussion I am going to talk about a method that works in a consensual power exchange dynamic.  The main purpose of this method is dominance.  To some it may be a turn-on but the purpose of this method is dominance.   This method could be used for discipline or to signal the start of a scene.  This method of face slapping is useful for many other purposes as well.
I like this method because it has a high degree of safety.  It has a low chance of injury.  This area of the body includes the eyes and jaw as well as the brain.  Damage can be permanent and severe.  Part of the reason I like this method is the control factor.  The control also is part of the reason that it is a dominant act.

The method:
“Come here I am going to slap your face.  Stand up straight and tilt you head to the right.  Don’t move, I do not want to hit the wrong place.”  I take my left open hand and support the left cheek.  I raise my right open hand so they can see it.  If they move or flinch I stop and say,  “Now hold your position I am not going to attack you.  You must present your face to me to be slapped.” I give them one firm slap while keeping their head from moving. I bring my right hand slowly back and hold the face between my two hands and say “You may cry you are safe here.”

The reasons for the methods:   
“Come here I am going to slap your face.”  This first statement tells the bottom what is going to happen and gives me a chance to look at the reaction.  Is it fear or concern?  Are they smiling?  If it is the first time I have done this with this person I can talk to them and get more information.  Ask if they have ever been slapped before and how they felt about it.  Find out if they have any jaw or eye problems.  If you see concern, dig a little deeper.  Or course it is a good Idea to have already filled out the form and gone over these questions.  This also builds trust and confidence which is a huge part of dominance.   If they usually like it and I now see fear, what is different?  Ask and get more information.  One time the bottom had a tooth ache on the right side so I switched to the left side.

“Stand up straight and tilt your head to the right.  Don’t move, I do not want to slap the wrong place.” 
This gives the bottom time think about what is going to happen.  It also gives me a further indication of informed consent.   The bottom knows what is going to happen and has to help in the set up.

“Don’t move, I do not want to slap the wrong place.” 
I like the build up and the anticipation of this.  It also indicates to the bottom how much you are concerned with their welfare.   It give them confidence in their ability to do this.  Face slapping can be very challenging to the bottom.

 I take my left open hand and support the left cheek.  I raise my right open hand so they can see it.   It is very important to support the head. Even a small rotation can cause injury. Apply enough pressure on the left to counter the slap on the right.   It is also a nice feeling to have your face in some ones hand.   This is not an attack. You are doing this together.  You want to come closer together with this face slapping experience. It is such a wonderful feeling knowing that you are the only person in the world that is given the privilege to slapping this person’s face.   

If they move or flinch I stop and say.  “Now hold your position I am not going to attack you.  You must present your face to me to be slapped.”  
This is the check point. If needed go back to the beginning.  Ask questions. See if they can hold the positions. If they flinch again stop again.  You want to gain control.  This is part of the surrender process.  Do not rush this part.  Take your time and bring the bottom to a place of confidently accepting the inevitable outcome.  They will do this.  Your will and determination is their support. “I don’t like it” is not a reason to not do it. “I cannot do this” Is this really true?   You may choose to not go through with the face slapping.  If you stop you have to do it in a way that leaves everyone feeling good and prepared for the next attempt. Do not give up but do not force either.  Find out what they need to be able to do this.  Don’t forget you started it and you have an obligation to make it work.

I give them one firm slap while keeping their head from moving. I bring my right hand slowly back and hold the face between my two hands
This is where you need to know your own strength.  You do not want to make it too soft.  This is not a little tap it is a real slap.   You do not want to make it too hard.  They should not see stars and have a bruise for a week.  Think about when you really stood up and applauded a great performance.  Your hand felt warm and stung a little but at the time you did not feel it much you were focused on the performance.   Now your focus in on the bottom. 
I like to slap and let my hand come back. Then I slowly caress the face with the back of my fingers and turn the hand around and hold the burning face with my open hand.  I am looking into the bottoms eyes and let them see my smile.

“You may cry you are safe here.”
Permission to cry is a good thing.  The bottom may feel like crying. Face slapping often has this effect.  You do not want them to be confused as to if it is OK to cry. You also do not want crying to be required.   So simply say you may cry.  The whole idea is that they are in a physically and emotionally safe place to be able to submit.  This simple statement is very powerful.   It shows that you are in control that they are protected. They can meet challenges with your help and that you are pleased with them.

Conclusion:
Face slapping can be an amazing experience.  It can be an effective tool.  It is a powerful tool.  Do some research?  Know the bottom’s history and desires.  Start slow and practice.  Have your own face slapped and see what it feels like.  That is right, the only way you will know is to try it.  When you slap someone’s face you need to do it right!  When you do it right the rewards far outweigh the risks.  Be advised there are risks.  This is a risk type of activity.  You will need time set aside for aftercare. Time for discussion about what was felt physically and emotionally will be of great benefit. 

Before you start prepare yourself:
You need to be confident in your manner, clear in your purpose, calm in your mind and generous in your heart.